Tonight I lost my patience.
When the usual bedtime antics went on longer than I could handle, with having had a testing few weeks, having done a full day plus the dinner and bedtime routine solo, and having things on my mind that I wanted to get done (for the kids) once the kids went to sleep… I reached my limit with Mr 4, because he’d reached his limit and I couldn’t calm him down and we both ended up having meltdowns together…
Once we’d both calmed down, we said our good nights and I left the room.
I sat on the lounge and collected my thoughts, and after a quiet moment, I went back into his bedroom, climbed up onto his bunk bed, and we talked about what happened as I cuddled him to sleep.
I wasn’t proud of my behaviour, but I know it doesn’t define me as a parent, just as I know his meltdowns don’t define him as a child.
We all have emotions and sometimes they can become too much. We see it in toddlers all the time, and it’s okay for them to see it in us too (*provided no one is getting hurt).
After I left for the second time, I decided I wanted to share my imperfect moment, and that I would share the below words that I wrote a few months back (but haven’t yet shared) that help me through my tough parenting moments to help others through theirs 💛
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Don’t be too hard on yourself, motherhood is a tough gig.
There are days when we all lose our patience. It is important to learn from these moments. Teach your children about feelings and what your feelings are evoking inside of you. Teach them about self care and needing space.
Take the opportunity to learn about yourself. Learn about the strengths you have and the things you need to improve. Learn about what calms you, but also what your trigger points are, and what your children’s trigger points are.
Be gentle with yourself.
Everyday is a new day filled with endless opportunities for self improvement.
These years will fly.
There is so much to learn and teach.
Have patience with yourself in the moments that you feel all patience is lost.
Take time to breathe and take stock. Whether that may be immediately after or later when the kids are tucked up in bed.
Life is full of opportunities for reflection.
Reflect often and if something isn’t working for you, then you are always free to alter your path.
Being gentle with yourself is key 💛
We are all energy.
There will be certain things or people or events that don’t gel with our energy & cause us to lose our patience, or become frustrated, angry, overwhelmed or upset.
These moments are inevitable. There is no one whose energy is unaffected by all other energy forms that exist in this world.
You are not alone.
What will help is recognising the energies that that do not connect with your own, or your trigger points, and learning how to best handle the situations.
Look inside to see what you can do to enhance the positivity in the situation.
Remember to focus on the internal and not too much on the external. All can be resolved from within 💛