Last week, our 7yo was reading a book on World Civilisations for his home reading. After reading about several cultures and their family life, he started to question why the women HAD to stay home, and why the girls COULDN’T go to school, saying, “I don’t get it!?” My response was, “I know right!? How ridiculous!” 😂
Now, normally I would have explained and taught him some of the history, but –
a) I didn’t have the energy that night,
b) it was grinding my gears having to hear about the inequities of history, and
c) I was actually just so damn proud that he questioned these things in the first place!
This is exactly what I want for our kids.
I want them to question why things are the way they are, or the way they were. I want them to check their own biases and challenge the biases of others as they grow older. Lastly, I want them to know that they can be and do whatever they dream of being and doing regardless of any history or stereotypes.
In our household –
Mum ‘goes to work’ and Dad ‘stays home’, doing the school lunches, the drop offs and pick ups around his own e-business,
Dad takes the bins out & mows the lawn, and Mum puts the IKEA furniture together and fixes things,
Mum bakes cookies and cakes, and Dad bakes banana bread and makes pikelets,
Dad cleans the pool, and Mum patches and paints walls,
Mum irons the clothes, and Dad puts on the washing.
We share a lot of the roles and responsibilities as equals.
We work to each others strengths and we respect each other’s efforts, and this only grew when we switched roles 2.5years ago and both built on our understanding of what it was like to fill the others shoes.
And we don’t discriminate on ‘boy things’ or ‘girl things’ and we have conversations with our kids when these things surface.
My role as a mother, is not only to raise a woman who knows what she is capable of and the power she holds within, but to also raise 2 men who recognise the same in themselves and in the women around them
I take my role at work to break biases as seriously as I take my role in building women up, and supporting them to know the huge value they bring as equals.
We all play an important role. How are you playing yours?
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